Be Careful With Your Words

New blog, straight from the heart, and short and sweet.

Have you ever truly just taken a seat and listened to the conversations going on around you?

NOT eavesdropping, just listening to the verbiage.

It's amazing some of the things people feel like they are free to toss out there.

They don't seem concerned at all by the damage they cause. It bothers them not at all that they just damaged someone else's good mood, or day, or worse.

It's worse when the first response when called on it is, "I never said that."

Well, yeah you did.

Families have been destroyed and torn apart by words....or action.

Lives have been changed for the better...or for the worse by words.

We all have it within our power to build up, or tear down.

We all have it within our power to educate, or demolish someone.

We all have it within our power to make the world a brighter happier place...or dark and gloomy.

But, too many people engage mouth and turn off brain and don't give a hoot about the damage, the loss of self-esteem, the destruction of friendship, or the wonder with which children looked up to them with.

Especially bad, I think, are those who feel they can wreak havoc where ever, when ever, and however they please and a simple "I didn't mean it" will make it all better.

It doesn't.

Some of the time, the wounds never heal. But the offender isn't worried because no one else can see all the damage they caused.

Guess what?

That is so not true.

It's there.

It's visible.

And, it is not always going to heal, or heal properly.

Why some seem feel they can make their own terms and conditions no matter who they harm or the damage they cause is beyond my ability to grasp.

Those people are called narcissists.

Having been far too close to too many narcissists, I try to avoid them like the plague now.

Some of my medical and mental health professional pals, knowing my familial relationship with a couple have advised me repeatedly to have nothing to do with them.

When asked why, the answer is invariably, "They will never change and they are not curable.

That tells me all I need to know right there.

If/When you ever find yourself mixed up with one, run, don't walk, as fast as you can and as far as you can leaving them way behind.

And then, and this is VERY important - Do. Not. Look. Back.

I promised short, and there you have it.

There are too many good people in the world to fall victim to a narcissist.

If you need someone to help you out, if you need someone to talk to, if you need a shoulder to cry on, whatever you need, I am here.

So, from this day on, stay safe and well, and know there are people around you who really care, are willing to stand with you, even willing to put themselves in the middle and reach out.

Food for thought for the week.

See you next week when we will be back with a much happier blog.